Merry Christmas!

Wishing you all a wonderful Christmas!

Papa

 

Bryan's dad, our beloved 'Papa', passed away on Friday, Dec. 14th at 10:00 am at his home, surrounded by his loving wife and children. Funeral services will be Thursday, Dec. 20th at 11:00 am at the LDS Church in Royal Camp. Pa is already very missed and will forever remain in our hearts...

plans have changed...

Yesterday we took Maddie over to Seattle for a cardiology appt. with Dr.C and an echo. The plan was to have a check-up, exam and prepare ourselves for a 10:00 heart cath this morning. We had our hotel booked, boys' care figured out here at home and pretty much packed up the whole house preparing to be gone a couple of days. God worked some of His magic yesterday... Maddie's echo pictures were very clear (which is rare since her Fontan), showing Dr C those areas of concern that could only be helped through a heart cath. Her pulmonary arteries look as if they've grown, they are staying wide-open and her Fontan looked beautiful. She still has a little hole (the fenestration which he referred to as a pin-dot) in the conduit but after talking to Dr.J, her cath doc, they didn't feel Maddie would benefit from closing it...she's dependent on it and why mess with things if it's working for her? She has higher pressures and needs the pop-off for blood flow. Her aortic valve is still leaking but its mild so just something to watch but nothing to attend to. And, drum roll please, her O2 sats were 89%, which we haven't seen in a very long time! SO...Dr. C left it up to Bryan and I if we wanted to go ahead with the cath or not. It was an easy decision for us- NO. If all that Dr. J would be going after were the collateral vessels, we can wait. Dr. C did say it's inevitable that she'll need to go back in the cath lab in the next couple of years for some maintenance but we can wait until she shows us more signs, one being her sats staying in the low 80's. This would prove that those collaterals are really stealing blood flow. There really is no rhyme or reason to why her sats fluctuate in his opinion...it could be when she's run-down, trying to fight a bug or hers just will ebb and flow in the 80's. At home, she sats anywhere between 84-88%. Dr. C did say she is one of the lowest satters, possibly the lowest satting Fontan he sees in his practice. But she's doing well, and we'll take it. We will follow-up in 4-6 months with her unless something pops up, unexpected of course. I am amazed by Maddie. She is truly a little miracle and continues to bring so much joy and surprise to our lives! In this world of CHD, things can change, very quickly, so we'll take this! Hearing some good news is so good for our hearts right now. As we were leaving her appt., she was so funny. She tipped her head back, put her hand on her hips and told an audience of nurses (she's a little adored by the staff at Children's) "I don't have to have a cath anymore!" Spunky, yes. I believe this spunk has helped get her this far.

Getting this news yesterday really felt like an answer to prayer. Bryan's dad is barely hanging on. This past month (really, months) has been so difficult for our family...anticipating the inevitable, watching him die is very, very hard. Papa is one tough guy, he has willed himself to keeping on and his determination has been amazing to watch; a little frustrating, but really TOUGH sums him up. I'm so glad my kids have that in their genes. Having Maddie's heart cath on the horizon has been a struggle- wondering at times if God is really hearing our prayers, how are we going to do this with all that we have on our plates...well, I can say without a doubt that HE DOES listen. His timing is perfect and it isn't always our timing but knowing that He works all things for His good is such a blessing. The news yesterday brought some much needed light to a dark time we're experiencing. Restoring some faith, looking to him, THANKING HIM...this is what everyone needed.

But I can say, whether we were in the pre-op area waiting for her procedure or home getting the boys ready for school this morning, my hope and trust remains in Him. He has shown us a tender mercy in one of the most difficult seasons of our life, losing a parent, and we thank Him for this mercy. He is there, He willingly shines His grace upon us, always. I thank God for this time, as difficult as its been.

Romans 8:28

^"And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose."

Miss Maddie doing what she does best...loving on baby brother!

the boy's birthdays

Jace turned 9 in August!

 So our family of 6 went bowling & to the archade which was super fun and for his first time bowling, Jace was pretty darn good!

 Sam enjoying his "ride" at the bowling ally

 His birthday theme was a movie party, watching "The Three Stooges"...which is funny to some, particularly 9 year olds

 He also had a family party this year and added a few buddies to the mix, fun times!

 While the big kids watched the movie, these three little girlie cousins gave each other make-overs!

 Happy 9th Birthday to an awesome, fun-loving boy! Happiness just leaks out of this guy. His smile is surely contagious...We love you Jacers and are very proud of you!

Then we celebrated Daddy's birthday at Grandma & Grandpa Allred's. A few days later, Bryan and I were able to get away for the afternoon and attend the Monday night Seahawks v. Packers game with Mike & Lesa. Bryan's been a Seahawk fan for 35 years. Yes, he's very loyal.

 At the end of September, Cade turned 7. Jace just wants world-peace in every picture!

 Cade posing so sweetly for his birthday photos. He requested a "Power Miner Lego party" which was a challenge but I think I pulled it off and it met his high standards :) Caden is a super smart kiddo who adds a lot of creativity and affection to our family. This little man can build any lego set you put in front of him and creates some pretty cool creations on his own. We love you Caders!

 This was the first year Cade's had friends over for a birthday party and a fun group it was!

 We celebrated that night with a family party...yes, this family knows how to party!

Then Sam turned one in October! He started crashing walking right before he turned 11 months and has had a bruise or two on his forehead since. This boy falls more than any of our other kids, he's surely the quickest little bugger and his bumps prove it! He's independent & keeps busy cruising around and opening cupboards and drawers all. day. long.

I can't believe he's already a year old! Sam is such a sweet, loving baby...he's quiet, mostly layed back and petite, weighing 19 lbs. 11 oz and 29 inches at his 1 year appt. We sure love our little Sammy and feel so blessed to have him as our caboose! Love, love our Sam-Sam!

 We had a fun little monster themed party for him... see, there is our peace sign again!

 He wasn't that into his monster cake...just took little bites, no cake smash for this guy.

 

Flarp from the goodie bags was our entertainment for the night... these little monsters kept us giggling with their sneezes, gross noises and antics!

 

cancelled cath

Maddie's heart cath was scheduled for this Friday but unfortunately, we've had to cancel it due to her having a little head cold. I know...sounds crazy. Our life has become so normal with her but in preparing for her 7th heart cath, we knew keeping her healthy was a priority. Easy to say, hard to do. I teach preschool, I have lectured those mother's enough and they are all very respectful of the "well-child policy" so we tried there. We tried limiting her going into grocery stores, public places, etc. but she still came down with a stinking cold. It's frustrating and times like these remind me that I am raising a child with a chronic illness. Her heart will never be fixed. Catching a simple cold then having a heart cath is not good- her risk for infection increases and the policy is to cancel. I'm grateful they always have Maddie in mind, her medical team is amazing.

As of now, her cath is rescheduled for Dec. 11th. Dr. Johnston is calling it an interventional cath as he's hoping to close her fenestration (hole created in her heart used as a pop-off for blood flow), as well as looking for & taking care of any collateral vessels as well as making sure her pulmonary arteries are wide-opened and growing well. After her Fontan, we knew she'd need to go back to the cath lab...just the timing was the question. After three open-heart surgeries and six heart catheterizations, we should be pros at this but it doesn't get easier. She knows she has to go back and when we've talked about it, she's anxious and tears up. I swear the older she gets, the harder this is.

She needs to have a good 2-3 week window of health- being clear of any illness. It feels impossible. We have four children, two of which attend public school. I teach 11 other children two days of week, preschool in our home. She takes ballet once a week. We spend lots of time with family and cousins. Can we just put her in a bubble and carry on with life? Bryan and I differ on how much we want to expose her...wished this was easier at times. What a balance it is between having her experience a normal life but compromising her health in achieving that goal. Prayers for keeping Miss Maddie healthy are always appreciated. Just want to get this cath over with. 28 days to go.

Remembering Mia...

I ache for my friend...a fellow heart mama, one I've known for the majority of my daughter's life. We share much in common...our 3rd child was our heart kid, our two oldest children are the same ages and we have baby boy's named Sam. Our little girls are very blonde, very blue-eyed and full of joy, life and happiness. My friend has lost her baby girl though.

 

Mia returned to her loving Father in Heaven on Monday, October 8th. I still can't bring myself to believe it. Throughout my days this past week, feelings and emotions that I didn't know I had have come welling up. I've cried many tears for my friend and spent hours praying for her and thinking of her. I know that Mia is in a better place...she's with Jesus. It's Mimi, John, Jensen, Ellie and Sam and their loving families that my heart completely breaks for.

 

The thought of losing a child crosses my mind like any other mother but the thought of losing my daughter, because she was born with a very broken heart, crosses my mind every day, sometimes several times a day.Yes, Maddie is doing well and a pretty typical four year old. But so was Mia. What I will take from her passing is this...Mia lived four wonderful years here. She was blessed beyond measure with a loving family and a beautiful life filled with normal experiences and most of all, lots of love. Her life was full and she exuded JOY! As parents, this is something we all strive for...raising happy kids who love life. If we can help our children achieve this kind of joy and happiness, the kind that is contagious to others, then we've been able to help make this world a little brighter. Mia definitely brightened the lives of all who knew her.

 

Saturday, the McDonald family will celebrate Mia's life at her service in Utah. She has inspired and blessed so many and her time on earth was cut far too short but her purpose here was so very great. I believe Mia achieved all that the Lord sent her here to do. What an honor it has been to watch her grow and follow her story from the beginning. Her mother is just as amazing as Mia...she has been a wonderful example of grace and strength for me. Miss Mia, you are loved and have left a big footprint here. We love you and will always hold you and your sweet family close to our hearts.

 

  Mia Marie McDonald  July 8, 2008 ~ October 8, 2012

Meeting Mia and Mimi for the first time shortly after her heart transplant at Seattle Childrens...November 2008.

Enjoying a fun heart mom night out with Mimi, Susie & Teagan and Jesse.

Maddie, Teagan & Mia at the McDonald's home in Puyallup

Dinner at the Ram following one of Maddie's caths...

Heart Family Picnic July 2009

August 2009...Mimi & Mia and Maddie & I following dr appts at Children's

If you'd like to help Mia's family and donate to a fund to help defer medical expenses, click here. To read Mia's obituary click here.

pray for Mia!

Remember Mia? She's a dear little friend of ours who's in need of your prayers. Mia and her family left this week for her Make-A-Wish-Trip to Florida...but instead of enjoying DisneyWorld with her family, she wound up in the hospital, only to find out she has pneumonia and is in rejection of her angel heart. Mia had a heart transplant at 4 months old at Seattle Children's. She is a spunky, sweet little four year old who up to this point had been doing great. But during a heart cath/biopsy procedure last night, things turned from bad to worse and she is currently on ECMO (heart-lung machine) to stay alive. Please pray for Mia and her family. They are so far from home, away from family and in a strange hospital. Our hearts are so deeply saddened right now for Mia and the McDonald family...